Comments for Parenting Baby to Sleep http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com Enlighting and empowering Parents with important infromation Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:13:47 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Babies “cry it out” over the use of unsustainable parenting methods by Vintage Mama's Rants » Blog Archive » Why you should never let your baby CIO (Cry It Out) http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/12/02/babies-%e2%80%9ccry-it-out%e2%80%9d-over-the-use-of-unsustainable-parenting-methods/#comment-103 Vintage Mama's Rants » Blog Archive » Why you should never let your baby CIO (Cry It Out) Fri, 06 Nov 2009 15:13:47 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=98#comment-103 [...] Parenting Baby to Sleep http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/12/02/babies-%e2%80%9ccry-it-out%e2%80%9d-over-the-us... [...] [...] Parenting Baby to Sleep http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/12/02/babies-%e2%80%9ccry-it-out%e2%80%9d-over-the-us... [...]

]]> Comment on Not sleeping through the night by Lauren http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/05/05/not-sleeping-through-the-night/#comment-82 Lauren Mon, 30 Mar 2009 06:03:00 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=35#comment-82 Hi, I am worried about my baby not being able to soothe himself to self ever. He is 9 months and I brestfeed him to sleep and he wakes up 3 -4 times a night.. he used to sleep right through the night.. but he has trouble going in and out of diffrent sleep cycles.. Is it harming him to be in bed with me and feeding when he wakes?? Will he ever learn to sleep by himself? Thanks. I would really appreciate some advice.. Hi,
I am worried about my baby not being able to soothe himself to self ever. He is 9 months and I brestfeed him to sleep and he wakes up 3 -4 times a night.. he used to sleep right through the night.. but he has trouble going in and out of diffrent sleep cycles.. Is it harming him to be in bed with me and feeding when he wakes?? Will he ever learn to sleep by himself?

Thanks. I would really appreciate some advice..

]]> Comment on Babies “cry it out” over the use of unsustainable parenting methods by Erin http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/12/02/babies-%e2%80%9ccry-it-out%e2%80%9d-over-the-use-of-unsustainable-parenting-methods/#comment-68 Erin Wed, 17 Dec 2008 05:15:06 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=98#comment-68 Nice post! Reminds me of my favorite book by Sue Gerhardt called Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby's Brain. If you haven't read it, I bet it would be right up your alley. Nice post! Reminds me of my favorite book by Sue Gerhardt called Why Love Matters: How Affection Shapes a Baby’s Brain. If you haven’t read it, I bet it would be right up your alley.

]]> Comment on Teaching a Baby to Self Soothe by Megan http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/teaching-a-baby-to-self-soothe/#comment-59 Megan Wed, 03 Dec 2008 19:31:00 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=24#comment-59 Sorry Kimberly that I've taken so long to get back to you. With morning sickness, the flu and hay fever as well as my net link down... I'm very glad I've an empathy filled little girl who looks after her Mumma. I've written you a post on your last comment. Please see "Babies Cry it out over the use of unsustainable parenting methods" Sorry Kimberly that I’ve taken so long to get back to you. With morning sickness, the flu and hay fever as well as my net link down…
I’m very glad I’ve an empathy filled little girl who looks after her Mumma.
I’ve written you a post on your last comment.
Please see “Babies Cry it out over the use of unsustainable parenting methods”

]]> Comment on Controlled Parenting…oh um Crying by Sandra http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/09/16/controlled-parentingoh-um-crying/#comment-57 Sandra Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:01:00 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=84#comment-57 I believe that the moment I chose to be a mother, that I chose to mother 24 hours a day, not just between 8 a.m. and 8 p.m. I think every parent, I hope, can say that love is a need that must be met - so I wonder why that need doesn't need met at night like it does during the day, in the mind of those that ignore their babies? I dunno. This crying practice is one I will never be able to wrap my mind around, makes no sense at all in any way. Ignoring a child isn't teaching them a thing. I believe that the moment I chose to be a mother, that I chose to mother 24 hours a day, not just between 8 a.m. and 8 p.m.

I think every parent, I hope, can say that love is a need that must be met – so I wonder why that need doesn’t need met at night like it does during the day, in the mind of those that ignore their babies?

I dunno. This crying practice is one I will never be able to wrap my mind around, makes no sense at all in any way. Ignoring a child isn’t teaching them a thing.

]]> Comment on Babies “cry it out” over the use of unsustainable parenting methods by Sandra http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/12/02/babies-%e2%80%9ccry-it-out%e2%80%9d-over-the-use-of-unsustainable-parenting-methods/#comment-56 Sandra Tue, 02 Dec 2008 17:54:27 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=98#comment-56 BLESS YOU! I am a very VERY outspoken hater of the CIO method, and was thrilled to see a mainstream publication (someone emailed me, I do not subscribe) actually explain why loving a baby isn't spoiling a baby: http://www.todaysparent.com/baby/behaviordevelopment/article.jsp?content=20081027_134032_13100&page=1 They say that research shows (I hate that - to me, NATURE PROVES, but I digress) that those children that were responded to within seconds actually cry less than those Americanized ones who are neglected and left to cry on their own. I love it when the mainstream media gets something right! :D BLESS YOU!

I am a very VERY outspoken hater of the CIO method, and was thrilled to see a mainstream publication (someone emailed me, I do not subscribe) actually explain why loving a baby isn’t spoiling a baby: http://www.todaysparent.com/baby/behaviordevelopment/article.jsp?content=20081027_134032_13100&page=1

They say that research shows (I hate that – to me, NATURE PROVES, but I digress) that those children that were responded to within seconds actually cry less than those Americanized ones who are neglected and left to cry on their own.

I love it when the mainstream media gets something right! :D

]]> Comment on Babies “cry it out” over the use of unsustainable parenting methods by Adrianne http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/12/02/babies-%e2%80%9ccry-it-out%e2%80%9d-over-the-use-of-unsustainable-parenting-methods/#comment-55 Adrianne Tue, 02 Dec 2008 15:47:27 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=98#comment-55 I totally agree with you! This example comes to mind: If you came over to my house and you could hear my husband upstairs crying. The crying got louder and louder, and my only response was "Oh he'll eventually tire himself out and fall asleep". That would never happen because we all know that adults don't cry without reason, so why do people think that it is any different for a baby? Babies have emotional needs just like the rest of us and these needs MUST be met. This is how we lay the foundation for healthy emotional development. I totally agree with you! This example comes to mind:
If you came over to my house and you could hear my husband upstairs crying. The crying got louder and louder, and my only response was “Oh he’ll eventually tire himself out and fall asleep”. That would never happen because we all know that adults don’t cry without reason, so why do people think that it is any different for a baby? Babies have emotional needs just like the rest of us and these needs MUST be met. This is how we lay the foundation for healthy emotional development.

]]> Comment on Teaching a Baby to Self Soothe by Kimberly http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/teaching-a-baby-to-self-soothe/#comment-54 Kimberly Fri, 07 Nov 2008 16:35:41 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=24#comment-54 correction: "mainstream childrearing DOESN'T applaud..." correction: “mainstream childrearing DOESN’T applaud…”

]]> Comment on Teaching a Baby to Self Soothe by Kimberly http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/teaching-a-baby-to-self-soothe/#comment-53 Kimberly Fri, 07 Nov 2008 16:33:38 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=24#comment-53 i had to laugh, i'm sorry. control? bad wording...ugh. we will never agree on bedtime soothing, i know that much. the alice miller book looks interesting. i'm sure it has much good to offer. on the other hand of course, i feel it is very dramatic. i was reading what she was reading and of which she included excerpts in her book ...german education of children or something like that, from 1977--how absolutely horrid! whoever wrote that was abused and mistreated in their childhood and only wants to pass it on. whoever this author is, they have real authoritarian complex. and alice miller sees this and you can tell by how many pages of her book are actually....this other book from 1977. mainstream child rearing does applaud those practices anymore and i assure you i never thought that way about raising my children. all i have to say, is that, do you know that that our generation is one of the most self-absorbed, narcissistic, selfish generations that has ever been? i doubt that that's because we were neglected/controlled/forced (whatever you want to call it) so often throughout infancy and childhood here's a report on the study: http://www.boston.com/news/education/higher/articles/2007/02/27/study_college_students_more_narcissistic/ it is late and i must get to bed. i had to laugh, i’m sorry. control? bad wording…ugh. we will never agree on bedtime soothing, i know that much. the alice miller book looks interesting. i’m sure it has much good to offer. on the other hand of course, i feel it is very dramatic. i was reading what she was reading and of which she included excerpts in her book …german education of children or something like that, from 1977–how absolutely horrid! whoever wrote that was abused and mistreated in their childhood and only wants to pass it on. whoever this author is, they have real authoritarian complex. and alice miller sees this and you can tell by how many pages of her book are actually….this other book from 1977. mainstream child rearing does applaud those practices anymore and i assure you i never thought that way about raising my children.

all i have to say, is that, do you know that that our generation is one of the most self-absorbed, narcissistic, selfish generations that has ever been? i doubt that that’s because we were neglected/controlled/forced (whatever you want to call it) so often throughout infancy and childhood

here’s a report on the study:

http://www.boston.com/news/education/higher/articles/2007/02/27/study_college_students_more_narcissistic/

it is late and i must get to bed.

]]> Comment on Teaching a Baby to Self Soothe by Megan http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/2008/04/25/teaching-a-baby-to-self-soothe/#comment-50 Megan Sun, 26 Oct 2008 04:28:42 +0000 http://parentingbabytosleep.wordpress.com/?p=24#comment-50 Kimberly may I also recomend this book by Alice Miller...the book is on line...don't know if your like me I found it a bit hard to read so had to have the hard copy. I don't think you'll like it...I have to say that even I found it a bit hard to take...but the more I read and the more I looked at myself and the people around me the more I became to realise that...there are a lot of myths out there...and they are not good for us as developing caring humans. The link is also on the bottom of the post Keep on looking Kimberly may I also recomend this book by Alice Miller…the book is on line…don’t know if your like me I found it a bit hard to read so had to have the hard copy.
I don’t think you’ll like it…I have to say that even I found it a bit hard to take…but the more I read and the more I looked at myself and the people around me the more I became to realise that…there are a lot of myths out there…and they are not good for us as developing caring humans.
The link is also on the bottom of the post
Keep on looking

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